When my first GOOD therapist took a little time to let me know he had two years of therapy before he felt ready to go into practice, I felt confident to speak up because I knew he had walked in my shoes and COULD know how desperate I felt.
Nancy is that kind of therapist, she’s been there, and she’s done her inner work, so her clients receive highly effective therapy from a loving, compassionate heart who truly relates to what they feel.
I’m so proud and humbled to share her offering to you, our loving community of non-judgmental, caring beings who know we are One. I offer Nancy a safe place to be seen, heard and loved by that One Love seeing her through our eyes, hearing her with our ears, and feeling compassion for her with each caring heart.
We may be small but we have a Magnificence as your audience, Nancy.
We are ready to be touched by your story, realizing that in your profession, you probably have few, if any, humans who see your needs without judgment and reach out a hand to you, without expecting a healing touch in return.
This is your page, Nancy. We are so happy to be here with you!
My Personal Journey of Grief and Loss
“We come into the world as innocent beings with hearts filled with joy and wonder. I began to feel a disconnect very early in my childhood, before the age of 1. My wonder and joy began to diminish which restricted me from freedom to express. It’s crazy to feel as a little being a restriction to emerge into the world feeling safe and protected. It was fear that I felt but under the fear was grief that I was not bonding with my father and my mother did not feel the freedom to express herself.
I found a way to overcome some of the grief which was to bond with my brother. I also had a nanny which helped me feel love and unconditional positive regard. I think a power from above knew to help me feel secure and safe. Those relationships helped me develop a sense of belonging.
An entire shaping of my development was to overcome the pain and grief
I felt from my father. My life has had many hardships but also numerous highlights. When I become overwhelmed, I relive that grief of the sad little girl that feels lost and helpless. I do have a skill set of pulling myself out of the darkness of grief and I spend less time in grief.
My journey has led me to self empowerment. I have leaned and continue to learn that I have everything I need to manifest goodness, wholeness, and strength. When I fall down I brush myself off quicker but at times it is hard because I manage my life without a husband, partner, and I am a single parent.
I don’t have family support, those relationships are broken. I do have support from a family of choice which inspires me to make healthy choices about my life. I do believe in a power greater than myself and I live by a spiritual foundation.
When I feel best is when I believe love conquers all. My heart is open and I dance through life feeling grateful and blessed.
We are not alone, our stories are what shaped us. I can help others because I have been there and I practice recovery on a daily basis.
You can do it just like I have.”
Nancy’s words keep ringing: “We come into the world as
innocent beings with hearts filled with joy and wonder.”
This song is about you, Nancy, and each of us.
wrapping up by Di …
I wonder if Nancy felt like she was living under the same roof with her father, but it was like he was not present to her. As if she didn’t exist.
That could result in confusion about identity. . .a feeling of “floating, untethered.” A primal tentative feeling for a child to bring into adulthood.”
Processing “identity grief” helped her “land” firmly on the solid ground of her own Joy of Being… the delight of knowing “the Gift she is!”
I think if I had grief again, I’d go to Nancy for therapy. Because all grief includes identity confusion. She’d be able to help me find myself!
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links to previous pages
(in case you missed it):
DAY 1 – Magenta: Waiting in Darkness
DAY 2 – JFP: Living after Heart surgery and 5 strokes
DAY 3 – JANE: Visiting Family – Layers of Love and Grief
DAY 4 – JFS: Loss of Someone to Care For
DAY 5 – SANDY: Allowing my Beloved Partner’s Memory to Live on
DAY 6 – PETE: Deep pain of losing my Beloved Daughter
DAY 7 – VIVIENNE: From the Dark to Light, Damage to Wholeness